Love is Lovelier the Second Time Around — with God


Hello Bro. Eli,

I know for a fact that anyone who commits adultery or concubinage commits a grave sin against God and the espouse of that person. My question is how evil is this sin? Can it be forgiven by a human being? How can someone move on from this devastating situation? Can the victim of this sin truly forgive and forget? How can the trust and confidence be brought back if lost by deceit and betrayal? Please give pieces of advice as I have been badly hurt by this trial.



Dear Mara,

There are things done which are impossible to be undone, but what is impossible with man can be possible to God. God, through His power, can undo what man has done. This was the faith of Abraham.

(Hebrew 11:17-19) By faith Abraham, when he was tried, offered up Isaac: and he that had received the promises offered up his only begotten son, of whom it was said, That in Isaac shall thy seed be called: Accounting that God was able to raise him up, even from the dead; from whence also he received him in a figure.

fornication.jpgSpeaking of human emotion, infidelity of a beloved partner is one of the bitterest situations which some can not bear, resulting most of the times in crimes and the destruction of a family. This is the work of satan the devil. The family is the basic unit of society, and satan is up to destroy the whole human society. So, our first line of defense against the caprices of satan is to keep the family intact.

Wounds, physical or emotional, can be healed by time, as an old song says “…but time can bring a change of heart; and love can make another start. Someday you may comeback to me to stay; but who can say how soon?” But by God’s power a wound can instantaneously be healed the soonest possible time.


Faith in God’s word can erase bitterness, anger, hatred, jealousy, and the likes. Remember the prayer “forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us”?

(Matthew 6:14-15) For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

Committing adultery and fornication is not only a sin against God and against the spouse, but a sin against the body of the offender.

(1 Corinthians 6:18) Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.

You may ask why a person can sin against his own body. The answer is simple. Smoking, drinking intoxicating liquor, abuse of eating (gluttony), and the use of prohibited drugs is against one’s own being. Gluttons practically kill their own body, plaguing their bodies with cardiovascular diseases because of uncontrolled consumption of foods. Gluttony is evil, biblically speaking.

(Luke 21:34) Take heed to yourselves, that your hearts be, at no time, stupefied by gluttony and ebriety and worldly care; and so that day come upon you unaware.

(Proverbs 23:20-21) Be not among winebibbers; among riotous eaters of flesh: For the drunkard and the glutton shall come to poverty: and drowsiness shall clothe a man with rags.

The spread of Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STD) to so many millions around the world is mainly due to infidelity and disregard of God’s Law.



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Hepatitis B In the World (

* 2 billion people have been infected (1 out of 3 people).
* 400 million people are chronically infected.
* 10-30 million will become infected each year.
* An estimated 1 million people die each year from hepatitis B and its complications.
* Approximately 2 people die each minute from hepatitis B.

Hepatitis B In the United States

* 12 million Americans have been infected (1 out of 20 people).
* More than one million people are chronically infected .
* Up to 100,000 new people will become infected each year.
* 5,000 people will die each year from hepatitis B and its complications.
* Approximately 1 health care worker dies each day from hepatitis B.

As the number of domestic cases in Canada dwindles, imported syphilis will become increasingly important. More prevention efforts should be targeted at travellers and immigrants as an estimated 12 million syphilis cases occur worldwide ( )

Prevalance of Gonorrhea: Each year approximately 650,000 people in the United States are infected with gonorrhea. In 1999, the rate of reported gonorrhea infections was 132.2 per 100,000 persons. (Source: excerpt from Gonorrhea: DSTD) … An estimated 650,000 cases of gonorrhea, caused by Neisseria gonorrhoeae, occur annually in the United States. (Source: excerpt from Sexually Transmitted Diseases Statistics, NIAID Fact Sheet: NIAID) … In 1997, 324,901 cases of gonorrhea in the United States were reported to the CDC, a case rate of 122/100,000. (Source: excerpt from Sexually Transmitted Diseases Statistics, NIAID Fact Sheet: NIAID)


We must consider surrounding circumstances before we can say that adultery and fornication are grave sins. This is the guide I will give you: Any sin committed by humans outside of the knowledge of the truth can be forgiven by God; and if God can forgive such, the more we must forgive.

(1 Timothy 1:13) Who was before a blasphemer, and a persecutor, and injurious: but I obtained mercy, because I did it ignorantly in unbelief.

We must also consider the situation surrounding the commission of such acts. Was it intentionally done by your partner; or was he or she forced by someone who initiated the act. Whatever the case maybe, my belief is that God can undo things that were done by humans.

happ_couple.jpgA torn garment can be mended; but “how can you mend a broken heart”? Here’s how:

(Matthew 9:16) And no one puts a piece of unshrunk cloth on an old garment, for the patch tears away from the garment, and a worse tear is made. RSV

The patch that can be used to cover the tear or repair the damage done by infidelity is fidelity. The patch of fidelity is love. If you really love your partner, you have all the reasons and courage to forgive, especially, if he or she has not yet received the knowledge of the truth.

(1 Corinthians 13:7) Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. RSV

David has committed infidelity when he took the wife of Uriah, but he repented, did not repeat it again, and was forgiven.

(Psalms 32:5) I acknowledged my sin unto thee, and mine iniquity have I not hid. I said, I will confess my transgressions unto the LORD; and thou forgavest the iniquity of my sin. Selah.

To forgive and to forget is attainable by the human mind and heart. God, with an eternal memory, can forgive and forget our sins that we committed against him.

(Hebrews 8:12) For I will be merciful to their unrighteousness, and their sins and their iniquities will I remember no more.

The only advice I can give is the advice given in the Bible, which states:

( 1 Corinthians 7:11) But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.

I believe in the song “Love is lovelier the second time around”, especially if that second time is coupled with faith and trust in God’s word than can instantaneously heal the wound in your heart.

May God help you.


In Christ,



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34 thoughts on “Love is Lovelier the Second Time Around — with God

  1. Our inner man must overcome the works of the flesh.

    Galatians 5:19 Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness,

    Galatians 5:20 Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies,

    Galatians 5:21 Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.

    Let us submit ourselves to God.

    James 4:7 Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.

  2. Mara,

    The answer of Bro.Eli is perfect. Amen to it.

    This is the reason why Bro. Eli is sent by GOD to us. All we have to do is to ponder the words in the Bible and continue to obey GOD through the pieces of advice Bro. Eli gives.

    As what the Bible says : If you hear God today harden not our hearts. God bless.

  3. I do believed deep in my heart that Bro.Eli will not die till Lord JesusChrist come.
    So it means that if anyone from the ink of manalo or from arroyos government win to stop Bro.Eli ,it means they just shorten their good times and speed up the coming of the savior.

    And if I d be given a chances to place my self instead of Bro.Eli”s death, I will do it wholeheartedly .

    Coz I believed Bro.Eli”s existence on Earth will save more soul and turn more people to obey God”s Law.

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  5. Had it not been God called me unto His Church, through our most sensible preacher, ever Bro Eli Soriano, I might still havel a feeling of anger and bitterness caused by all the pains and heartaches I’ve suffered. Though there’s no chance for me and my ex-hubby to reconcile,(’cause he’s living with another woman and they already had a baby), I just let him go. I already forgive him and forgot everything.I just kept myself busy by serving God. Though we have a different situation, I would say bro Eli can never be wrong on his advices which are all biblically-based, amen to that. Letting my ex-husband go and leave with his new woman, does not mean I did not forgive him, but rather I don’t want another family will suffer. I just prayed for them that God will forgive them and will find His truth and righteousness.

  6. Where in this world can you find such answers? I mean, honestly people, is this sensible or what?! Just be objective, opn your hearts and you’ll be surprise how TRUE the articles in this blog site are. How can it not be? They’re from the Bible….spoken by the God’s messenger in our time. So better believe it; cherish it; and we hope that one day, you’ll live by it.

  7. As always, it never stops to amaze me everytime bro. eli preaches.And i shake my head and thought to myself this could only come from God.

  8. dear Mara,

    With the help of God…

    (Matthew 9:16) And no one puts a piece of unshrunk cloth on an old garment, for the patch tears away from the garment, and a worse tear is made. RSV

    I am one of those who have received a second chance. I’ll pray for yours as well.

    Thanks and Glory be to God always.

  9. Hi Mara,

    Follow Bro.Eli’s advice which base upon the word of God
    and you’ll see God will guide you to overcome and
    eventually heal the pain.

    Im sure its the best advise you can ever get which
    came no less from the man of God Bro. Eli which preaches the true and pure word of God.

  10. i want to know how can you forget something that has hurt you badly that you want to die? it is easy to say we can forgive and forget, but to do it is another matter. if we are hurt so much those hurtful things will keep on in our mind. so how can we forget it?

  11. Dear Mara,

    I was once in sin of adultery when I was younger, while not yet in the church. I did not really intend to commit this sin but it was due to temptation–a strong temptation from a married woman. She seduced me and showed every sign of liking me, and, because of my weakness I succumbed to it and got entangled in this ugly relationship with her for several years. But later on, after realizing that what I was doing is a grieve sin, I decided to stop it. That was some ten or more years ago. I repented very hard. I seriously and whoeheartedly asked for God’s forgiveness. I prayed hard every day for this. I then looked around for a church to join until I came across the program of Ang Dating Daan aired at DZRH and in the TV. After a year or so of hearing/viewing this program, and after attending a Bible Exposition, I then decided to attend the indoctrination sessions, and finally baptized on May 10, 2005. For this, I thank Bro. Eli so much for his dedicted efforts and patience in reaching out looking around for the lost sheeps. I believe that after baptism our Lord God Almighty has already forgiven me, but the I still continue asking Him for forgiveness. And also asking Him to soften the heart of my own wife who still hates me up to now–that she may forgive me now of the cheating that I committed against her.

    Mara, I appreciate you so much for being able to forgive your husband who left you and now with another woman. In my case I did not leave my wife but she still hates me for what I had done to her. How I wish she could be like you with a forgiving heart! She is not with me in the Church of God because she says she will stick in the catholic church. My leaving the catholic church is also one of the reasons why she hates me. Please help me pray to God to touch my wife’s heart. Thank you.

  12. To Mara,

    For short premises of my experiences:

    For all you know, I am a product of a broken family. It´s been very difficult to be one of the victims of this kind of mess which my own father had brought which made our lives very miserable. I am the eighth of the nine siblings in the family. It was my great mother who brought us up to be persons, to be men and women in this world. I am very proud of my mother because of that. May be lots of mothers in this world that can be proud of, but for me, my Mom is one-of-the-kind and I thanks GOD for that. To GOD be all the Glory, Honor, and Power, forever and ever! She did lots of sacrifices, even her personal happiness was given up, just to provide and survive all our needs in her own little (but for me its the BIGGEST) ways (that God bestowed to her such wisdom to make money for our utmost survival) for her entire life. She did not mannry anymore although many guys run after her. With all modesty intact, my mom is really beautiful (I´m not saying this because she´s my mom) in her own right. She is a ¨mestiza.¨

    Anent to these, my dad who is an unbeliever until now, cheated and spent his entire time, income, attention, everything to his woman. He worked abroad and abandoned us for several years. No communication, no remittances, nothing was given to us that must be due to us as his own family. He is naturally a womanizer-of-a-kind. With his corrupting actions, he was not just putting and bringing himself to a hellish and mesirable life but also the entire family. We suffered much from much empoverish. In the morning we just ate what we called ¨LONG RICE¨ or boiled banana matched with salt or salted fish. At noon for lunch, we had the so-called ¨WATERED-RICE¨ or porrage and in the evening, we had called it a HUMBLE SUFFER instead of SUPPER becuase we had what we called ¨MEMORICE¨ because we didn´t eat because we had nothing to eat anymore and we just immediately went to bed for a sleep with a tummy empty. It was a repeated scenario day by day until we grew old. We were been the shock absorber of my Dad´s bad actions. We, the children suffered much from it. But we learnet lots out of those best experiences we had. I really believe on the saying, ¨Experience is the best teacher.¨ Now, to be a womanizer is out of my vocabulary guided by the verses of the Holy Scriptures, teachings of Bro. Eli and the guiance of the Almighty God. With that, I have learned to forgive my Dad and forget all those messes we had in the past. If my Dad will repent, come back and offer a reconciling hand to me and my family, then I am willing to extend a forgiving hand and heart for his second coming. If GOD forgives, why shouldn´t I? Right?

    We used to be in the ¨BURNS-AGAIN¨ Groups for more that 20 years since my mom used to be a deaconess there having that so-called ¨speaking of tongues, laughing in the spirit, singinmg in the spirit and the crying in the spirit¨ that are foolishness in the sight of God. She played a great role in that false congregation while giving tothes and offerings. We were been fooled greatly by the devil but such experiences open my Mom´s, my brother´s, my sister´s and my eyes to see the truth through the preaching of Bro. ELI and Bro. DANIEL. We found the truths in the Bible through the preachings of Bro. Eli and in the Church of God. I have lots of questions in my myind before to the extent of asking GOD that of all people why me? Why my family? why? why? lots of WHYs played in my mind. I have found the real answer and the truth of of my questions after I and my mom, bro and sis became members of the Members of the Church of God International. Its just ONE VERSE in the Bible comforted, pacified, and made me understand everything that had happened in my life and in my family. It is found in Romans 8:28 and I quote:

    And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.

    All those hardship, difficulties, troubles, etc. that I considered as miseries MEAN ¨SALVATION¨ and ¨LOVE¨ of GOD to the four of us. Because if we haven´t experienced those things in the past, probably, we will still be in the hands of those corrupting hands of false pastors and preachers of the false religions under the claws and control of Satan their father, being fooled, manipulated and subdued for their own destruction.

    Thans God for his messengers in the person of Bro. ELI and Bro. Daniel and for all HIS unspeakable presents to us all!!! Thanks to Ingkong and Kuya for leading us all to righteous and to the path to salvation! To GOD be all the Glory, Honor, and Power forever and ever. AMEN!

    Continue to listen to Bro. Eli´s preaching and surely its NOT A WASTE OF TIME! I hope that my sharing helps you in some other ways in my own little way. To GOD be the Glory!!!

  13. Dear Mara,

    I am from NAMEI a second year student as for me your situation is so very bad for me a husband or wife should only love there spouses they should not do adultery because doing adultery is a sin that is against to the ten commandments of God. WE all know we are not perfect we commit sins If someone have done bad to you, you should learn how to forgive and forget. I understand you even you can’t forgive your husband it part of human life but always remember that we should forgive them because God has forgiven all our sins even if we don’t hear him say “I forgive you”. Time heals that the only thing I can say to you just wait for the time you can forgive your husband and forget all he have done to you and put the trust back in your marriage. When I have read this blog I am so amazed of what Bro. Eli said to you. I am very thankful that I was given a chance to write a comment about what I have read and I am very thankful to Bro. Eli, His advices is so very inspiring it inspires me to have more stronger faith to God. Thank you very much!!!!!!!!!!!!

  14. mary angela move on… don’t let your heart and life be wasted! forgive him 4 we also comit sins, we cant deny that and ofcorse nobody’ perfect! so many things that we can do to be hapy,and dont let your past or other people mistakes darkened your heart 4 all we know ourselves…live in the presence/future and not with your past. And have faith to our God [Fil 4:6-7]

  15. Mara,

    Personally speaking, if only if human beings can have self fulfillment or satisfaction, infidelity, adultery or cheating can be avoided if not eradicated, but since we are leaving in this world of challenge, we will be tested. nobody is exempted from being Temp that’s the reality.
    Wherever you look there are these so called temptation made by Satan.
    we should accept it its the reality. if we failed and fall into temptation or sin or becomes the VICTIM or say “Collateral Damage” of it, TURN TO GOD look for him just like what i did. and its beautiful very very beautiful when you’re with God.
    and you know what, its in Bro Eli that you can find the answer. through God’s grace Bro Eli will enlighten you, will guide you into a perfect way of life.
    Thanks be to God

  16. Even if you already knew the knowledge of truth and committed sin, God forgives, as long as you ask forgiveness, repent and do not repeat the sin. As David did, committed infedility, God forgive him. David is a man of God.

  17. AMEN!!!

  18. YOU ARE GREAT ALMIGHTY GOD, NOW AND FOREVER. As it is in our daily prayer, …’FORGIVE US OUR TRESPASSES AS WE FORGIVE THOSE WHO TRESPASSED AGAINST US’, I pray for you sister Mara, that while you had already forgiven your husband, you will survive all the pains and damages caused by the infidelity of your spouse. You are not alone, there are many more who suffered the same fate. I wondered though if you will still live with him had he not taken another woman. Anyway, GOD has many mysterious ways to heal the wounds. Bro Eli is always there for the afflicted, the sick, and the hungry. Thank you so much Bro Eli, Bro Daniel, ministers, workers, and members of the CHURCH OF GOD.

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