Biblically Addressing the Concerns of a Sexually Addicted Reader

Why did God make “having sex” so sacred? why are we limited to only one
partner at a time? Why did He make it a sin to have sex with a third
party when ur already married or have a lover? why do we feel so jealous, angry, mad if our partner had sex with a third party? why sex is so sacred? I am addicted to sex, and this is my serious problem, and I need a striking answer from the bible…

Dear Stan,

From your heart and your mouth came out your feeling that you are so mad and jealous when your partner have sex with another party. That is one of the most important reasons why God limits our sexual relationship. God understands our being; our emotions; our weaknesses, and infirmities.

(PSALMS 103:14) “For he knoweth our frame; he remembereth that we are dust.”

Jealousy brought about by an experience of having somebody to share the love an attention of your lover grows into hatred towards the third party.

(Proverbs 6:34) “For jealousy is the rage of a man: therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance.”

This may result into a serious crime!

All over the world there are cases of murder and homicide because of jealousy. Jealousy will not be felt by anybody without any interfering party that comes between the sexual relationships of a couple, or lovers.

The Bible tells Christians to have only one sexual partner. It is physically fits our being. Your sexual organs can not please to partners at a time.

(Matthew 19:5-6) “And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh. Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”

The verse says: “two or twain shall be one flesh” — not three or four! So, it is prohibited, especially to preachers and ministers, to have more than one wife!

(1 Timothy 3:2) “A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behavior, given to hospitality, apt to teach…”

This is contrary to what the polygamous leaders of the Mormons say in their book, “Doctrines and Covenants”(see reference below).


The preceding declaration in the book of Mormons is blatantly a contradiction with the Holy Bible. Would you believe in it? GOD FORBIDS!

Whether any Mormon member admit it or not, if you are married to a Mormon man and you are sharing the same man with another three women, it is inevitable that you will feel jealous, one time or another, which may develop later into hatred — which is strictly prohibited among Christians.

(1 John 3:15) “Whosoever hateth his brother is a murderer: and ye know that no murderer hath eternal life abiding in him.”

Sexual relationship is both exciting and sacred. I appreciate your frankness in telling me that you are addicted to sex because it excites the senses; and as defined in the dictionary, it is the “highest level of pleasure and feelings”(orgasm); but you must also remember that sexual relationship is sacred and entails many responsibilities towards each other. Why? Because it is God’s way for the continuing process of procreation. It is God’s way of bringing into earth His children and His ‘seeds’ of righteousness through matrimony. This is the reason why the Bible teaches us of strict measures regarding courtship, marriage, and sexual relationships.

(Hebrews 13:4) “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled; for God will judge the immoral and adulterous.” (Revised Standard Version)

It is the very reason why God, during the time of the Israelites, forbids them to marry and have sexual relationships with the Canaanites and other pagan nations that surrounds the people of Israel.

(Deuteronomy 7:1-4) “When the LORD thy God shall bring thee into the land whither thou goest to possess it, and hath cast out many nations before thee, the Hittites, and the Girgashites, and the Amorites, and the Canaanites, and the Perizzites, and the Hivites, and the Jebusites, seven nations greater and mightier than thou; And when the LORD thy God shall deliver them before thee; thou shalt smite them, and utterly destroy them; thou shalt make no covenant with them, nor show mercy unto them: Neither shalt thou make marriages with them; thy daughter thou shalt not give unto his son, nor his daughter shalt thou take unto thy son. For they will turn away thy son from following me, that they may serve other gods: so will the anger of the LORD be kindled against you, and destroy thee suddenly.”

Aside from the possibility that marrying them or having sexual relationships with them may cause the Israelites to turn away from the true God, recent archaeological findings have proven that the land of Canaan, where these people lived, was infested with various sexually transmitted diseases!(

The Bible teaches a Christian lover to love his sexual partner like the love he has for his own self and body.

(Ephesians 5:28) “So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.”

Stan, if you love your sexual partner, would you take the risk of infecting her with the deadly AIDS virus that you might acquire from other sexual partners. It is for your good conscience and God fearing heart to decide. To protect yourself and your partner from the evil and perils of infidelity, I want you to read these verses very carefully:

(Proverbs 5:16-18) “Should thy springs be dispersed abroad, And streams of water in the streets? Let them be for thyself alone, And not for strangers with thee. Let thy fountain be blessed; And rejoice in the wife of thy youth.”(American Standard Version)

And again:

(Proverbs 5:10-11) “Lest strangers be filled with thy wealth; and thy labors be in the house of a stranger; And thou mourn at the last, when thy flesh and thy body are consumed…”

Remember, syphilis is a debilitating disease!

Thanks for writing, and please do not hesitate to write again regarding anymore doubts you have in the Bible.

God Bless.

11 thoughts on “Biblically Addressing the Concerns of a Sexually Addicted Reader

  1. I been listening 2 bro elie for 2 year, i have heard many good thing about the bible. I recommend u lessen and make this truth guide your life. He is a person send by God to understand deep things in the Bible. All things r written, things
    that we need, questions that bother our mind.

  2. to be very enlightened in the words of God is the most important thing in this life for it involves everything we NEED to know. i can say that Bro. Eli Soriano is one of the most if not THE MOST important human being living in our time! GODspeed brother! much respect and love!!!!

  3. Bro. Eli keeps on fascinating me. Ever since I started reading he’s articles here, more and more that God shows whom He is with. From refuting the detractors of God, to scientific points of view in connection to the bible, to knowledge in legal matters, and now, sex in relation to the laws in the bible. Once again, we have proven that the authenticity of the bible is no question–it’s just how the people interpret its meaning the wrongway. I’m sure, most, if not all the members in the congregation presided by Bro. Eli follows the Christian doctrines which can make a man perfect (II TIM. 3:17).
    Thanks be God!

  4. the most advanced gadgets i have used is a calculator and a cellphone 🙂 only like a a moment in time ago did i learn to use computers. and im glad i have learned to use computer and log in the net. specially things that i read are Bro. Eli’s postings. Thanks be to God

  5. Sad is that with your authority to control your being isn’t there!
    I was fascinated the way brother Ely teach when it comes to the Bible’s Information. Hope your enlightened!
    I am a 32 year old single and to tell you the truth, i had experience with one woman,that you call sex, and that was 5 years ago, first and the last! i do hope it’ll be the last,if ever to my wife if time permits!
    I hope you spend your time most in listening,reading,studying the scripture with GOD’s Help in CHRIST, you’ll be free from your passion and desire of the flesh!

    Scripture: ‘Take my yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.”
    Matthew 11:29

    More Power to you! GOD Bless in CHRIST!

  6. “To the pure all things are pure, but to those who are defileda and unbelieving nothing is pure; but even their minds and conscience are defiled.”
    Titus 1:15

    Well based on their information and other christians as they claim they are,when not! The Scripture by itself and a preacher guided by Wisdom that is of GOD explains it well, crystal clear!

    GOD Bless in CHRIST

  7. Its is indeed really amazing and relaxing reading Bro. Eli’s posting!! Thanks be to God he was sent in our time. Really an enlightening site. Keep it up with God’s help.

  8. Thanks to God, BroEli for God gave someone like you to be asked and answers question to us. I am currently suspended because of the sexual matters. I know this is not the proper forum for my case. That’s why i only want to ask an advice from you Bro.Eli for me and to all the youth who are in trouble with these kind of things. I admit myself that this is my weakness and im guilty of doing it that’s why im paying it until now. How can we effectively free from these things as a youth? (while im writing this, an answer came into my mind) But if you have free time Bro.Eli to write a blog concerning these matters. As a warning to my fellow youth coz i know it’s not easy to be suspended. SsD

  9. We must live in holiness no matter what happens.

    Teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world;

    Titus 2:12
    King James Version


  11. Once again, I am blessed by this topic. Thank’s be to God for the wisdom He gave to Bro. Eli. Hopefully my husband will be able to read this article, I’m pretty sure he’ll also be blessed by this. Glory to God always!

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